Maybe I should plead the fifth on this one. Rich would tell you that this is where I fall short. He feels that I don't give him enough of my time or attention, and he's right about that. At the end of my long days, I like to take the leftover scraps of time and use them for myself. In fact, I often come in the door, say a quick hello, change my clothes, and start doing whatever project or chore that's on my mind, neglecting to stop and give him a kiss or even a hug. It's embarrassing to admit, but I just don't think about it. Every once in awhile, the thought will surface to the top of my brain and I'll make a conscious effort to pause and show him some sign of affection. It usually takes him by surprise and is very much appreciated.
Most of the time we spend our evenings at opposite ends of the house, doing completely unrelated things. He's usually watching TV or sometimes doing a household chore. I'm on the computer, working on a project, watching a different show on TV, or doing another household chore. Never the twain shall meet. It's a sad state of affairs and every once in awhile Rich reaches his limit and calls me out on it. Of course, I remind him that it's a two-way street! Thus my efforts lately to plan fun weekend excursions and adventures for us to do together. I figure that there just isn't enough time to work with during the week, but the least I can do is make an effort on weekends.
I guess the syndrome I'm describing is emotional distance. A lot of wives complain that their husbands are emotionally distant, but it seems to be more unusual in reverse. For myself, I can say that it's mostly caused by an accumulation of hurts over the years without complete forgiveness at a deeply subconscious level. It's something I really need to work on if I want my marriage to succeed.
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